Do you know that God designed marriage to work according to the way
he created the man and the woman in the garden of Eden? Each of them has
its own marital duties that when practiced appropriately make the
marriage successful. The bible makes it clear by commanding husband and
wife to fulfill their marital duties to each other. (1 Corinthians 7:3)
What are these martial duties that scripture is talking about?
1. Wife Should Submit To Her Husband.(Ephesians 5:22)
It is a wife's duty to submit to her husband. God created a hierarchy
in marriage according to how he created men and women. Jesus Christ is
head over the husband and husbands are head over the wife in just the
same way that Christ is head over the church, his body, of which he is
the Savior". (Ephesians 5:23) This does not mean that man is superior to
the woman.
In God's eyes men and women are equal heirs of His
kingdom, and that's all that matters! In society there is a push and
shove mentality that the different sexes exhibit with each other from
time to time, but it doesn't mean a thing! You can't take this life to
heaven with you. Why work so hard proving something that you cannot take
to heaven with you? In fact, you will not see heaven if you are so
burdened in this life with things of the flesh. "For where your treasure
is, there your heart will be also." (Matthew 6:19-21)
God chose
to make Eve out of Adams flesh and bones, which illustrates that in
marriage man and woman symbolically become "one flesh". The goal in
marriage should always be of "oneness" between husband and wife. Do you
see "oneness" in marriage today? The wife is doing her own thing and the
husband is doing his own thing. They each have their own jobs, their
own money, their own friends, etc. Are we honoring God with our
marriage, or satan? Where is the oneness? Why are we not procuring for
ourselves spiritual treasures that we can take to heaven with us?
When
a Christian wife rebels against her duty of marriage she is rebelling
against God and His plan for her in the marriage, consequently the
marriage will have difficulties, much like what we are seeing today.
Reality is, if the husband does not fulfill his marital duty to his wife
properly she will have a difficult time submitting to her husband. In
fact this is where the attitude of feeling like a doormat has been
brought into Christian culture.
Wrong attitudes grow like yeast
does in bread dough. I would venture to say that ninety percent of the
Christian culture has been deceived and they don't even know it. Women
have been deceived into believing that being a wife and mother is not
good enough and that she must go to college and have a good career and
boss her husband around. After all, most women have been told they are
equal to or above men and will not be treated like a doormat. Many of
them have the "no man will tell me what to do" attitude!
More and
more men are being emasculated by their wives. Consequently men are
looking outside of America for suitable marriage spouses so they may
find a good woman who will treat him like a man. I know of many such
marriages and the wives are treated with love and almost anything their
heart desires. Many American women are really missing out on the
blessings that come with a healthy Godly marriage.
If one link in
the marriage is weak, ultimately the marriage will have no leg to stand
on. Why is it so important that wives honor and submit to their husbands
in everything? It is because her husband, being the man that God
created him to be has a built in natural instinct to be a protector,
provider, and leader. All men have this ability, even those men who
believe they were born without it. When a woman usurps her husband's
headship she will be in constant suffering in her marriage because she
is trying to row her boat against the nature of the current.
A man
needs to be treated like a man for him to be able to properly carry out
his God-given calling. It is wrong for any woman to try and undermine
the natural instincts of her husband because of a messed up attitude
that has evolved from a confused culture-it is not natural for a woman
to behave like a man and it is not natural for a man to behave like a
woman--it doesn't matter what century we are living in!
"Husbands,
love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up
for her". (Ephesians 5:25) Husbands are commanded to love their wives-in
the same way Christ loved and gave himself up for us. This is why it is
so important to understand what real love is. Love is not s superficial
feeling of lust and desires like so many think, but principled acts and
behaviors that must be acted upon and sometimes sacrificed for.
A
husband cannot love his wife properly if he does not put Jesus Christ
above himself and utilize the power of the Holy Spirit within him. Now
there is a wonderful treasure to store up for yourself in this life.
When a husband loves his wife in the ways of the Lord, he is giving up
his own life for that of his wife, to make sure her needs are met and
taken care of, above his own. A husband must pray about this daily and
ask Christ to help him love his wife because there will be days when he
may not feel like being very loving.
A man who learns to love his
wife in the ways of God will be blessed with much marital happiness. The
results will be a wife who respects, honors and loves her husband.
Let's stop all the fussing and fighting and lets start honoring God with
our marriage. What one thing can you do today to help bring your
marriage back to God? What spiritual treasures can you store up for
yourselves in marriage?
Do you feel intimidated to submit to your
husband's? Are you loving your wife in the Lord? If you want a
gloriously blessed marriage, husbands must take back their God-given
headship position and start honoring God with their marriage! This is
what will fix Christian culture! Do you think you can make headship and
submission work in your marriage? I do.
Tuesday, January 19, 2016
HOW TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM OF INFIDELITY IN MARRIAGE.
It is not easy to deal with infidelity in marriage. Infidelity causes
emotional problems that couples feel the only solution is to end the
marriage. Before you start thinking of ending your marital relationship
with your spouse because of infidelity, consider the following:
Realize That It Is A Sin To Cheat On Your Partner.
The moment you think it's a normal thing to cheat on your partner you cannot stop it. However, if you see it from God’s point of view that infidelity is a sin, it will help you to have godly fear, which brings repentance, and restraint.
Resolve To End The Affair.
If you are to overcome infidelity and save your marriage, you need to end the illicit affair with your lover. You can do that by deleting the phone number. Again, you can as well put an appointment to meet each other so that you can officially end the relationship. please avoid the meeting at closed door room or office. just meet at any eatery, that is safe for you.
Identify The Causes Of The Infidelity.
Infidelity does not just happen. Many things lead to it. Through experience over the years as a minister of God, I have come to discover that many men are unfaithful due lack of sexual satisfaction. Their wives turn them down when they need sex. Therefore, if such men are not God fearing they might be tempted to go elsewhere for satisfaction.
How can this problem of sexual denial be solved? The man should be able to tell his wife her attitude of sexual denial. . Do you know some women are frigid? That is, they don’t have sexual desire. As a result, they can stay for a long time without sex.
Now when such a woman is your wife, it takes the grace of God for her to comply, to voluntarily give herself to you. However, a wife who is frigid should not starve her husband of sex.
Some men deny their wives sex too. The bible said that the man and his wife have no right to their body as far as sex is concerned. So to kill infidelity, try as much as possible to satisfy your partner sexually.
Rebuild Trust.
After an affair, it can take time to learn to trust your partner again. Begin the healing process by being open about your feelings and sharing time together as a couple. For instance, when you receive phone call or text message from your your secret former lover, let your partner know about it. You might even tell your partner to pick the call,read the text message.
Forgive One Another.
They say to ‘err is human and to forgive is divine’. Forgiveness is not easy in this horrible case of infidelity. But when we realize the love of God for us, it becomes easy for us to practice forgiveness. Look at your partner eyeball to eyeball and say sorry. That is the only way-healing can to take place. and when your partner says sorry , please forgive and forget.
And when you say you are sorry for the past act of infidelity, don’t go back to your lover again. Try to avoid all the temptations that can lead to that. Start building trust. Let your partner see a new person in you. If you can maintain your promise not to cheat again, your marriage will be healed.
Realize That It Is A Sin To Cheat On Your Partner.
The moment you think it's a normal thing to cheat on your partner you cannot stop it. However, if you see it from God’s point of view that infidelity is a sin, it will help you to have godly fear, which brings repentance, and restraint.
Resolve To End The Affair.
If you are to overcome infidelity and save your marriage, you need to end the illicit affair with your lover. You can do that by deleting the phone number. Again, you can as well put an appointment to meet each other so that you can officially end the relationship. please avoid the meeting at closed door room or office. just meet at any eatery, that is safe for you.
Identify The Causes Of The Infidelity.
Infidelity does not just happen. Many things lead to it. Through experience over the years as a minister of God, I have come to discover that many men are unfaithful due lack of sexual satisfaction. Their wives turn them down when they need sex. Therefore, if such men are not God fearing they might be tempted to go elsewhere for satisfaction.
How can this problem of sexual denial be solved? The man should be able to tell his wife her attitude of sexual denial. . Do you know some women are frigid? That is, they don’t have sexual desire. As a result, they can stay for a long time without sex.
Now when such a woman is your wife, it takes the grace of God for her to comply, to voluntarily give herself to you. However, a wife who is frigid should not starve her husband of sex.
Some men deny their wives sex too. The bible said that the man and his wife have no right to their body as far as sex is concerned. So to kill infidelity, try as much as possible to satisfy your partner sexually.
Rebuild Trust.
After an affair, it can take time to learn to trust your partner again. Begin the healing process by being open about your feelings and sharing time together as a couple. For instance, when you receive phone call or text message from your your secret former lover, let your partner know about it. You might even tell your partner to pick the call,read the text message.
Forgive One Another.
They say to ‘err is human and to forgive is divine’. Forgiveness is not easy in this horrible case of infidelity. But when we realize the love of God for us, it becomes easy for us to practice forgiveness. Look at your partner eyeball to eyeball and say sorry. That is the only way-healing can to take place. and when your partner says sorry , please forgive and forget.
And when you say you are sorry for the past act of infidelity, don’t go back to your lover again. Try to avoid all the temptations that can lead to that. Start building trust. Let your partner see a new person in you. If you can maintain your promise not to cheat again, your marriage will be healed.
Seven Important Steps To Revive The Spark In Your Marriage
Remember when you two were so deeply in love that nothing could
separate you? A lot of us have come to expect that the passion wears off
after a few years, but it doesn’t have to. Here are a four steps you
can do to reignite and rekindle the flame in your relationship:
1) Date Like You Used To Date In The Beginning
Many couples settle into routines; they come home from work, eat dinner, watch some television and then sleep. It can get very boring sometimes. So to spice things up, spent one night a week having a night out, and spend it just like you used to when you both were dating. You need to remind each other why you both got together in the first place. If you have children, leave them with a grandparent or a babysitter for just that one night. You will definitely enjoy the peacefulness and focus on each other.
2) Communicate
A lack of communication can be the main cause of a monotonous relationship. Effect communication is vital to keep the spark alive. If you feel your partner is not spending enough time with you, speak your mind. Sit down and discuss about it. It may bring back the charm of your relationship.
3) Be Romantic
In the beginning, almost all couples flirt with each other. You already know how to turn each other on mentally, emotionally and physically. So why not send your significant other a flirtatious text or email in the middle of the day for no reason. Tease them a little bit. Tell them how much you miss them. Tell them how good it feels to be in a relationship with them. Random compliments in the middle of the day for no reason at all will reignite a romantic spark.
4) Explore Something New Together
Get away for the weekend. Take a road trip together. Explore a new activity together. It doesn't matter if it's dancing, cooking class, learning a sport or something else. It only matters that you learn something together. Doing that will make you ignore the current issues between you, plus it creates something new about which the two of you can talk.
5) Bedtime sharing
Go to bed at the same time, together, every night. This is huge. That means turning off the TV, the night-light and the phone. This is your time together. Cuddle and talk, make love if the urge strikes, but that is not the point. The point is to talk about your day, your worries, and your hopes. Discover that in spite of all the time you have spent together, you still don’t know each other. If you don’t live together, or are not together for whatever reason, talk on the phone after you climb into bed.
6) Touch well, touch often: Touch your partner as often as possible, and get them to touch you as often as possible. Skin to skin contact increases a hormone called oxytocin, the hormone of love. Oxytocin increases trust and a sense of safety; it reduces stress and increases sexual arousal.
7) Play together. Be playful in your interactions. Have a sense of humour in times of stress. Find something playful to do that you both enjoy and make it a priority to keep it in your schedule. Play is critical to our sense of connection to others, and to our joy in life. It also expands our ability to think, develops creativity, and gives us a sense of joy in addition to develops trust and engenders caring.
1) Date Like You Used To Date In The Beginning
Many couples settle into routines; they come home from work, eat dinner, watch some television and then sleep. It can get very boring sometimes. So to spice things up, spent one night a week having a night out, and spend it just like you used to when you both were dating. You need to remind each other why you both got together in the first place. If you have children, leave them with a grandparent or a babysitter for just that one night. You will definitely enjoy the peacefulness and focus on each other.
2) Communicate
A lack of communication can be the main cause of a monotonous relationship. Effect communication is vital to keep the spark alive. If you feel your partner is not spending enough time with you, speak your mind. Sit down and discuss about it. It may bring back the charm of your relationship.
3) Be Romantic
In the beginning, almost all couples flirt with each other. You already know how to turn each other on mentally, emotionally and physically. So why not send your significant other a flirtatious text or email in the middle of the day for no reason. Tease them a little bit. Tell them how much you miss them. Tell them how good it feels to be in a relationship with them. Random compliments in the middle of the day for no reason at all will reignite a romantic spark.
4) Explore Something New Together
Get away for the weekend. Take a road trip together. Explore a new activity together. It doesn't matter if it's dancing, cooking class, learning a sport or something else. It only matters that you learn something together. Doing that will make you ignore the current issues between you, plus it creates something new about which the two of you can talk.
5) Bedtime sharing
Go to bed at the same time, together, every night. This is huge. That means turning off the TV, the night-light and the phone. This is your time together. Cuddle and talk, make love if the urge strikes, but that is not the point. The point is to talk about your day, your worries, and your hopes. Discover that in spite of all the time you have spent together, you still don’t know each other. If you don’t live together, or are not together for whatever reason, talk on the phone after you climb into bed.
6) Touch well, touch often: Touch your partner as often as possible, and get them to touch you as often as possible. Skin to skin contact increases a hormone called oxytocin, the hormone of love. Oxytocin increases trust and a sense of safety; it reduces stress and increases sexual arousal.
7) Play together. Be playful in your interactions. Have a sense of humour in times of stress. Find something playful to do that you both enjoy and make it a priority to keep it in your schedule. Play is critical to our sense of connection to others, and to our joy in life. It also expands our ability to think, develops creativity, and gives us a sense of joy in addition to develops trust and engenders caring.
Recognising The Signs Of A Marriage Breakdown
Many marriages end up in divorce because they wait too late to get
help that is needed to save their marriage. Ignoring marital problems
can build up resentment, hurt feelings and cause on spouse to
emotionally detach from the other. Seek a professional help if the
following signs are occurring in your marriage:
1. You Often Dream About a Life Without Your Spouse
Thinking about how much better life would be if you were divorced is common. However, if it occurs ever so frequently, this is a sign of trouble. It indicates that you are stuck in an unpleasant situation without any solution.
2. The Bad in The Marriage Outweighs The Good
If the negative outweighs the good in your marriage, your marriage is in trouble and is in need of help. Not taking pro-active steps to solve marital problems will lead to other problems that destroys the marriage.
3. You Keep Things to Yourself
Communication is an important to relieve stress and build a healthier bond between couples. Lack of communication indicates the lack of trust in your spouse. A marriage can't survive where there are issues of trust.
4. Arguing over the same subject repeatedly.
If your arguments become routine with all the same issues and no resolution, then your marriage is either standing still or dying fast.
5. You Feel Like You are The Only One Trying to Solve Problems
You feel frustrated because every time you try to discuss marital problems, your spouse backs up from you. Eventually one or the other spouse will shut down all together and no longer be interested in solving the marital problems.
6. Intimacy is a thing of the past
A considerable decline in physical affection is one of the most recognized symptoms of a failing relationship. Intimacy is the act that allows us to bond as husband and wife. If your partner is showing no or very little interest in intimacy, they are less caring about the emotional bond between the two of you.
1. You Often Dream About a Life Without Your Spouse
Thinking about how much better life would be if you were divorced is common. However, if it occurs ever so frequently, this is a sign of trouble. It indicates that you are stuck in an unpleasant situation without any solution.
2. The Bad in The Marriage Outweighs The Good
If the negative outweighs the good in your marriage, your marriage is in trouble and is in need of help. Not taking pro-active steps to solve marital problems will lead to other problems that destroys the marriage.
3. You Keep Things to Yourself
Communication is an important to relieve stress and build a healthier bond between couples. Lack of communication indicates the lack of trust in your spouse. A marriage can't survive where there are issues of trust.
4. Arguing over the same subject repeatedly.
If your arguments become routine with all the same issues and no resolution, then your marriage is either standing still or dying fast.
5. You Feel Like You are The Only One Trying to Solve Problems
You feel frustrated because every time you try to discuss marital problems, your spouse backs up from you. Eventually one or the other spouse will shut down all together and no longer be interested in solving the marital problems.
6. Intimacy is a thing of the past
A considerable decline in physical affection is one of the most recognized symptoms of a failing relationship. Intimacy is the act that allows us to bond as husband and wife. If your partner is showing no or very little interest in intimacy, they are less caring about the emotional bond between the two of you.
Duties Of Ideal Husband
Duties Of The Husband
The word husband comes from some Anglo-Saxon words which means ‘‘house band’’. This implies a stripe of metal (a rope) used to bind the house together. A husband therefore binds together the home in terms of its organization and control.
Headship Of The Family
2. Love. The husband is not only the head of his home, but should exercise love. Should show love to his wife. From the scripture we shall see ways he will show love to his wife.(Eph. 5:25-29)
1. Spiritual needs: the word of God, prayer, church service attendance
2. Physical needs: Food, clothing, accommodation, education etc
3. The husband must understand his wife’s sexual needs.
4. Provide For Her Sexually
The word husband comes from some Anglo-Saxon words which means ‘‘house band’’. This implies a stripe of metal (a rope) used to bind the house together. A husband therefore binds together the home in terms of its organization and control.
Headship Of The Family
- Headship connotes:
- Authority: in bringing up children
- Leadership; in providing direction and guidance
- Responsibility: decision-making; don’t shirk it so that you can blame someone else when things backfires
2. Love. The husband is not only the head of his home, but should exercise love. Should show love to his wife. From the scripture we shall see ways he will show love to his wife.(Eph. 5:25-29)
- The husband should give his wife his best, sacrificially (verse 25)
- Present her back to himself (verse 27)
- He should nourish and cherish her(with the word of God and physical things)
- Let her feel accepted and special
- Stay at home as often as possible and provide companionship
- Do not be hash on her Col 3:19
- Listen to her a lot and encourage her talk
- Let her feel important with you- especially in public (speak about her positively)Be tolerant because she is the weaker
- Protect And Care For Her
- Protect her from the strain of hard work
- Protect her from the attack of relatives (she is more susceptible to attacks e.g. spiritually, psychologically and emotionally)Help to organize her life –timetable, planning and pursuit of great career etc
- Work Hard To Provide For The Needs Of The Family (1Tim.5:8)
1. Spiritual needs: the word of God, prayer, church service attendance
2. Physical needs: Food, clothing, accommodation, education etc
3. The husband must understand his wife’s sexual needs.
4. Provide For Her Sexually
Duties Of Ideal Wife
Eve was created to be Adam’s HELPMEET. Therefore, whatever the woman does, her motive must be to help, protect, motivate, uplift and promote her husband.
Here we are to see the duties of the wife to her husband:
I. Love Her Husband. Some women do not love the men they marry. The reasons for this may include the following:
II. Submit To Your Husband (Eph 5:22-23)
The word submission means to give up, give in surrender, yield, succumb, and acknowledge defeat, humble oneself etc.
Every wife has a God given duty to satisfy needs of her husband. Usually, the need to have sex is greater for a man than for a woman, and many wives find their husbands’ persistent advances for sex a bother. A wife should know and understand that if she does not take care of her husband’s sexual needs, she may push him to seek fulfillment elsewhere and this will lead to a lot of heartaches and pain. It is therefore in her interest to satisfy him sexually whenever he demands it. Sexual relationship between husband and wife is for:
Here we are to see the duties of the wife to her husband:
I. Love Her Husband. Some women do not love the men they marry. The reasons for this may include the following:
- She married him because of material benefits she wanted to acquire
- She might have been growing old so she accepted the marriage as a desperate measure
- She might have gotten herself pregnant be accident
II. Submit To Your Husband (Eph 5:22-23)
The word submission means to give up, give in surrender, yield, succumb, and acknowledge defeat, humble oneself etc.
- A wife should not be autocratic, or erratic in her actions.
- The man has a mission in the family while the woman has a sub-mission.
- She should not insist on rights. She should not be obstinate and stubborn
- She is not independent, and should not act as one.
- She should be able to chat with her husband when he is quiet, encourage him when he is down
- She should not disrespect her husband both in private and in public
- She should not be a nagger in words and expression (Prov.21:19
- Not a talkative.
- A man is a king in his household or he is nothing at all
- Reverence And Honour him (1Pet. 3:1-6)
- Preparations and feeding of the family
- Managing of the family food money
- Keeping at home when necessary
- Must be a hardworking and not a demanding waste pipe (prov 31
- Must give affection service to: husband, children, maids, relatives and neighbours
- She must be ready to take care of all her visitors to their family. Furthermore, she must be willing to share with members of the extended families of both parties. She should not scare away people by selfishness or stinginess.
- She must take care of her body in order to remain attractive and wholesome to her husband.
- She must keep her home and environment clean
- She must not only appear beautiful and attractive outside but must be same inside.
- Beautification And Adornment (1Pet3:3-4; Songs of Solomon 4:1-7;Prov 31:22-24
Every wife has a God given duty to satisfy needs of her husband. Usually, the need to have sex is greater for a man than for a woman, and many wives find their husbands’ persistent advances for sex a bother. A wife should know and understand that if she does not take care of her husband’s sexual needs, she may push him to seek fulfillment elsewhere and this will lead to a lot of heartaches and pain. It is therefore in her interest to satisfy him sexually whenever he demands it. Sexual relationship between husband and wife is for:
- Procreation(gen 1:28)
- Prevention of sin of adultery (1Cor 7:1-2)
- For pleasure (Gen 18:12)
Ideal couples And Financial Management
- Open a current or savings account. Most people will open the accounts in both names, but this can lead to problems later. If you are managing the finances and your spouse decides he needs more funds than he has, you could end up getting overdrawn, because you both are trying to use the same money.
i. God first (first and best fruits(Tithes), offerings)
ii. Buying food in bulk saves money and reduces financial stress.
iii. Allow money for your immediate needs. Make sure you provide spending money for you and your spouse. You will need lunch money and other miscellaneous expenses that you have every day.
iv.Save to spend money. If you are planning on buying a house or having a family, you will want to put money aside for these things. The best way is to put an amount into your monthly budget to plan for the things you want.
v. Figure out what money you have after you have completed the above steps. From this, you can decide what your priorities are. Speak with your spouse--he should have input on this so he doesn't feel as if he has lost all control of the family finances--this can avoid fights later.
vi. Divide your categories. Some spending is absolutely necessary such as rent and utilities. (Called non-discretionary spending) and others are things that we buy but don't absolutely have to do so (Discretionary spending). Make two columns on a piece of paper and write down your costs dividing them into the 2 types of spending. You could call these Necessities and Wants.
vii. Pay Yourself.Whether you are doing well or struggling financially, find a way to save on a regular basis. Add a small amount of savings to your Necessities costs and never touch it unless you are on the verge of being thrown out onto the street! We all need a cushion for unexpected emergencies, not to mention wanting to go on well-earned vacations. Don't go into debt, save for what you want!
viii. A Change in Thinking and Lifestyle
This article is really about changing the way you approach money both in your thinking and actions. Don't fall in love with money or the things it can buy you. They can't buy you happiness. Eliminating debt and having money are tools to give you one of the most important things in life: Freedom!
3. Attitude to money in home.
A. Discuss money openly. Aim at transparency/openness in everything, especially in money matters.
B. Avoid selfishness
C. Note that you (both0 are only stewards of God’s money
D. Spend it according to God’s wishes
E. You are accountable to him
4. Understanding financial Headship
Headship in the home extents to finances as well. Therefore, no matter who earns more, the man must rule the finances of the home with wisdom and fairness. He must have a clear vision or foresight for the home to better the lot of the family, for instance, a Plan to own a house someday.
1. As a financial head, he must avoid stinginess, meanness, and irresponsibility.
2. Avoid lack of Money
Lack of money should not be a permanent situation in the family. Problems associated with lack of money are: tension, quarrels, misunderstanding, mistrust, suspiciousness infidelity, etc.
Husband should try as much as possible to ensure that money does not lack at home.subsequently, where the husband has tried his possible best to put food on the table, and he couldn’t because of some circumstances, his wife should not fold her hands and allow hunger destroy her family.
5. Know the Dangers of Covetousness.
Covetousness arises when husband/wife compare their property or children with those of others. It leads to:
- Dissatisfaction in the wife/husband
- Unreasonable demands being made
- Murmuring
- Misspending
- .Borrowing to maintain a certain lifestyle
Temperaments And Marriage - Sanguine Husband
Temperaments are the inbuilt characters of a person that cannot be
changed, but can be controlled by the Holy Spirit. In marriage, couples
need to study the temperaments of each other, for that is the only way
they can cope during trying periods. In temperament, we have weaknesses
and strengths.
Weaknesses are that characters that when you display make your spouse wonder whether you are a christian.While strengths are your good characters. Today you are going to learn about the weaknesses and strengths of a sanguine husband.
I. The Strengths of A Sanguine Husband.
A sanguine husband believes in looking good all the time. He is emotionally warm, friendly and sympathetic to the tears of his friends.He does not like sad or gloomy moments. Life to him is fun, so he loves staying out doors with friends, eating and drinking.
When offended, he quickly tells you what you did to him was wrong. And immediately he pours out his mind that ends all the quarrels. He has no time for grudges. He is expressive in public- in storytelling conversations, exaggerations and actions. Because he is a gifted orator, everybody likes hearing him speak. In fact, he is good in talking people into joining or buying his products. If filled with the Holy Spirit, and has a call, he will be a great evangelist.
He loves his wife and children dearly, and can do anything to make them happy.
II. The Weakness of A Sanguine Husband
The sanguine husband has the following weaknesses: He lacks discipline in all he does. He hardly concentrates on his studies, prayers, and church activities.He talks more than women. He gossips, and backbites. He speaks people out of their duty posts.
He exaggerates whenever he is speaking, just to motivate his listeners to believe his story. He is hot tempered. He is easily irritated whenever people want to take him for granted.
He is prone to unfaithfulness- to time, appointments and promises. It’s so because he is weak-willed when faced with great challenges. (Jon.21:3)
He spends whatever he earns anyhow. He is unconstrained and usually overspends. Spirituality. He is carnal and fleshly. Lives women, food and wine.(Rom.8:6-7)
He is untidy- throwing things about. His house is always not swept, cloths and plates, unwashed etc.
He loses interest easily. He may enter and leave a relationship easily. He can be unfaithful to his wife by following other women who are more attractive, cheerful and sexually active than his wife.(2 Sam.11:2-5)
As a sanguine husband, you need the infilling of the Holy Spirit to bring out the best in your temperaments. There is no excuse to the expression of your weaknesses. God expects you to overcome your weaknesses (Rom.8:11, 13)
Weaknesses are that characters that when you display make your spouse wonder whether you are a christian.While strengths are your good characters. Today you are going to learn about the weaknesses and strengths of a sanguine husband.
I. The Strengths of A Sanguine Husband.
A sanguine husband believes in looking good all the time. He is emotionally warm, friendly and sympathetic to the tears of his friends.He does not like sad or gloomy moments. Life to him is fun, so he loves staying out doors with friends, eating and drinking.
When offended, he quickly tells you what you did to him was wrong. And immediately he pours out his mind that ends all the quarrels. He has no time for grudges. He is expressive in public- in storytelling conversations, exaggerations and actions. Because he is a gifted orator, everybody likes hearing him speak. In fact, he is good in talking people into joining or buying his products. If filled with the Holy Spirit, and has a call, he will be a great evangelist.
He loves his wife and children dearly, and can do anything to make them happy.
II. The Weakness of A Sanguine Husband
The sanguine husband has the following weaknesses: He lacks discipline in all he does. He hardly concentrates on his studies, prayers, and church activities.He talks more than women. He gossips, and backbites. He speaks people out of their duty posts.
He exaggerates whenever he is speaking, just to motivate his listeners to believe his story. He is hot tempered. He is easily irritated whenever people want to take him for granted.
He is prone to unfaithfulness- to time, appointments and promises. It’s so because he is weak-willed when faced with great challenges. (Jon.21:3)
He spends whatever he earns anyhow. He is unconstrained and usually overspends. Spirituality. He is carnal and fleshly. Lives women, food and wine.(Rom.8:6-7)
He is untidy- throwing things about. His house is always not swept, cloths and plates, unwashed etc.
He loses interest easily. He may enter and leave a relationship easily. He can be unfaithful to his wife by following other women who are more attractive, cheerful and sexually active than his wife.(2 Sam.11:2-5)
As a sanguine husband, you need the infilling of the Holy Spirit to bring out the best in your temperaments. There is no excuse to the expression of your weaknesses. God expects you to overcome your weaknesses (Rom.8:11, 13)
Temperaments And Marriage -Sanguine
Temperament, in simple terms, is the inborn part of man that
determines how he reacts to people, places and things. We have four
temperaments (Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholic and Phlegmatic). Our study today shall be dealing on the Weaknesses and strengths of a sanguine wife.
I. The Strengths of A Sanguine Wife.
She is adorable and popular. Always being elected as a spoke person in any occasion. She is the easiest personality to spot in a crowd- she talks a great deal, usually laughs loudly, and has many gestures, like waving her arms in the air. She can talk for hours on a topic she has little or not much information about.
She is good at networking/marketing- she knows virtually everyone. She is a good motivator of people, ready to convince people to do things they wouldn’t normally do on their own. She doesn’t hold grudges when her feelings are hurt. Always ready to apologize when she does something wrong.
She likes throwing parties and attending them. At the party all actions revolves around her. She accepts the fact that everybody has faults and makes mistake. She has no desire to judge others and this attitude makes her popular.
She lives by principle of acceptance- her slogan is ‘‘live and let live’’. She doesn’t spend her time thinking about what is wrong with people she meets. She rather focuses on what is right about people and about life. She is creative. She is a creative dresser and likes new hairstyles and colours. Her creativity may extend to baking, decoration, and entertaining.
she has a seemingly childlike faith and trust in human beings- believing the best about her husband and others She loves her husband dearly, and can do anything to make him happy. She is very good at bed. In fact her husband must be ready to satisfy her at all times.
II. The Weakness of A Sanguine Wife.
A sanguine wife is talkative. She often wonders why everyone else is quiet all the time. Because she doesn’t pay attention to details she may say the wrong things and embarrass those close to her. She tends to exaggerate for effect and therefore is seen as not telling the truth.
Permissive. She may allow her children to behave anyhow and may not take danger signs in marriage and life in general seriously.She is forgetful and unreliable. She does not remember appointments and schedules. Also often get excited about role but is not around for the implementations.
She fusses and complains when she has to work a little. She doesn’t like to work. She loves fun all through.A messy Housekeeper. She never seems to know where anything is because of her unsteadiness.
Happiness in marriage is greatly dependent on how well each spouse understands their partner's temperament and how willing they are to meet their partner's temperament needs.
I. The Strengths of A Sanguine Wife.
She is adorable and popular. Always being elected as a spoke person in any occasion. She is the easiest personality to spot in a crowd- she talks a great deal, usually laughs loudly, and has many gestures, like waving her arms in the air. She can talk for hours on a topic she has little or not much information about.
She is good at networking/marketing- she knows virtually everyone. She is a good motivator of people, ready to convince people to do things they wouldn’t normally do on their own. She doesn’t hold grudges when her feelings are hurt. Always ready to apologize when she does something wrong.
She likes throwing parties and attending them. At the party all actions revolves around her. She accepts the fact that everybody has faults and makes mistake. She has no desire to judge others and this attitude makes her popular.
She lives by principle of acceptance- her slogan is ‘‘live and let live’’. She doesn’t spend her time thinking about what is wrong with people she meets. She rather focuses on what is right about people and about life. She is creative. She is a creative dresser and likes new hairstyles and colours. Her creativity may extend to baking, decoration, and entertaining.
she has a seemingly childlike faith and trust in human beings- believing the best about her husband and others She loves her husband dearly, and can do anything to make him happy. She is very good at bed. In fact her husband must be ready to satisfy her at all times.
II. The Weakness of A Sanguine Wife.
A sanguine wife is talkative. She often wonders why everyone else is quiet all the time. Because she doesn’t pay attention to details she may say the wrong things and embarrass those close to her. She tends to exaggerate for effect and therefore is seen as not telling the truth.
Permissive. She may allow her children to behave anyhow and may not take danger signs in marriage and life in general seriously.She is forgetful and unreliable. She does not remember appointments and schedules. Also often get excited about role but is not around for the implementations.
She fusses and complains when she has to work a little. She doesn’t like to work. She loves fun all through.A messy Housekeeper. She never seems to know where anything is because of her unsteadiness.
Happiness in marriage is greatly dependent on how well each spouse understands their partner's temperament and how willing they are to meet their partner's temperament needs.
What To Do When Your Spouse Is Sick
The only time you need to show love to your spouse is during
sickness. The possibility for your relationship to change with an
illness is there. To some couples, during illness Is the time to stay
late at night, to only come back when the sick one has almost being
exhausted, fainted, because of hunger. But sure I got a lot of
information for you, on what to do to keep the love flowing.
Have a Positive Attitude About The Sickness
See in your mind's eye someone telling you that your spouse has 90 percent chance of getting better. Does that sound good? Of course it does. It's always worthwhile to think positively. In fact, experts in psychology say that ‘a positive attitude enhances your immune system and will actually increase your chances of a full recovery’
so when you have positive mindset, toward your sick spouse it will create positive reaction. your sick spouse will have faith that soon the sickness will be over.
The time of illness is the time two of you have to keep the channels of communication open more than ever. Remember to do the following:
Let you partner know you want to be alone. Discuss this to your spouse kindly. The reason for this information is to avoid disturbance when you want to be alone.
Try your best to always give each other your full attention. A sick person needs attention more than anything, so provide time for that.
If you are feeling scared and fearful as a result of your spouse’s condition, share it with your spouse. As much as you might want to push him or her away, try as hard as you can to draw him or her closer to you.
Give your spouse the chance to support you. Don’t see it that his/her presence is a disturbance. Physical contact is healing and creates closeness. Hug each other often.
Love your spouse. During this critical time, you need to show love to your spouse; the reason is that it makes the relationship strong. Instead of trying to regret or complain, why not say “I love you”
Have fun Together.
Since you might not be able to go to a movie or out to dinner or to some important places of fun, yet you can still have fun together by setting out time to be alone at home without any interruptions. There are many things that you can do to have fun, even if you don't have much energy. Here are some things to try:
Tell story that will build hope. The best is bible stories that talk about those that put their face in God and how they received their healing.
Draw some colorful pictures together.
Watch an interesting movie together
Read a book to each other.
By the time you follow these principles, your sick spouse will not only appreciate you, but will be relieved of some unwanted tension whether you will abandon the house and run away.
Have a Positive Attitude About The Sickness
See in your mind's eye someone telling you that your spouse has 90 percent chance of getting better. Does that sound good? Of course it does. It's always worthwhile to think positively. In fact, experts in psychology say that ‘a positive attitude enhances your immune system and will actually increase your chances of a full recovery’
so when you have positive mindset, toward your sick spouse it will create positive reaction. your sick spouse will have faith that soon the sickness will be over.
The time of illness is the time two of you have to keep the channels of communication open more than ever. Remember to do the following:
Let you partner know you want to be alone. Discuss this to your spouse kindly. The reason for this information is to avoid disturbance when you want to be alone.
Try your best to always give each other your full attention. A sick person needs attention more than anything, so provide time for that.
If you are feeling scared and fearful as a result of your spouse’s condition, share it with your spouse. As much as you might want to push him or her away, try as hard as you can to draw him or her closer to you.
Give your spouse the chance to support you. Don’t see it that his/her presence is a disturbance. Physical contact is healing and creates closeness. Hug each other often.
Love your spouse. During this critical time, you need to show love to your spouse; the reason is that it makes the relationship strong. Instead of trying to regret or complain, why not say “I love you”
Have fun Together.
Since you might not be able to go to a movie or out to dinner or to some important places of fun, yet you can still have fun together by setting out time to be alone at home without any interruptions. There are many things that you can do to have fun, even if you don't have much energy. Here are some things to try:
Tell story that will build hope. The best is bible stories that talk about those that put their face in God and how they received their healing.
Draw some colorful pictures together.
Watch an interesting movie together
Read a book to each other.
By the time you follow these principles, your sick spouse will not only appreciate you, but will be relieved of some unwanted tension whether you will abandon the house and run away.
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