Marriage is the coming together of two people who have several
differences. As a result there will be differences in opinion,
expectations, personalities, along with other differences derived from
our upbringing, background and culture.
Needless
to say, because of these differences there are bound to be areas of
disagreement and if proper care is not taken these disagreements can
lead to major conflicts.
The key is to be patient with each other. Be
slow to speak and quick to listen, learn to control and manage your
anger, learn to communicate your concerns in a sensitive and loving way,
seek to understand the likes and dislikes of your spouse so as not to
repeat behaviors that offend them.
Be sure not to overreact
angrily or violently when your spouse does something that upsets or
grieves you as this will worsen the situation. Instead, communicate your
feelings with love and sensitivity so that your spouse will understand
that they offended without feeling like they are being attacked.
Patience is a hard trait to develop but if you can master it, you will
have less conflicts in your marriage.
Marital Success Tip Number 2: Give
True
love gives. Giving is an act of appreciation and as the saying goes
"action speaks louder than words." I often tell people when I give them
marital advice that "I love you" sounds better when it comes with a
gift.
Learn to give your spouse your time, your love, your
affection and gifts. Gifts such as roses, jewellery, spa treatments, or
it can even be as simple as your spouses favourite chocolates.
Gifts
show your spouse that you have been thinking of them especially if you
have been away on a long trip, it demonstrates that even though you have
been away you were still thinking of them. Giving is an expression of
love and even though you can give without loving, you cannot love
without giving.
Marital Success Tip Number 3: Friendship
Your
spouse should be your best friend. One of the things that has helped my
wife and I to maintain a close bond is the friendship between us. Aside
from being lovers, we are best friends. We play fight, we tease each
other, we play board games and computer games together, we watch
television together, we go out regularly to dinner or to watch a movie,
we talk to each other about our dreams and vision, we share our joy as
well as our pain, and we stand by and are committed to each other.
So
many couples have lost the friendship aspect of their relationship and
as a result they have become strangers under the same roof, the fun has
gone out of the relationship, there
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