Most marriages begin the same. The newlywed couple carefree and joyful. Unfortunately, at some point along the road, things start to change. Life happens to happen. Some couples just don't know how to deal with tough situations, and the marriage falls apart. Your marriage does NOT have to end in divorce! Any marriage can be saved, when you put good effort into saving it.
It's no wonder more marriages are struggling to survive nowadays, with the economic crisis and the fast paced lifestyles we live.
As human beings, our natural emotion is to get out of any situation that makes us uneasy. That's why so many marriages are falling apart! We simply don't want to TRY to save marriage anymore! For whatever reason - it takes too much time, it's too much work, etc. Millions of excuses for not holding on to something as important as life itself!
To save a marriage, both partners should sit down and calmly discuss what's going on with the marriage. This way, you have the opportunity to see it from each other's point of view, and maybe you will see things differently. Once you have found the source of the problem, now it's time to get to work and FIX the problem.
When you work together, you will have a much better chance of saving your marriage and stopping a divorce, than if only one person tries to fix the marriage themselves. When your marriage was good, you had fun together. When times get tough, you have to learn to get through these times together, too, so you can go on to have more fun times!
You will be able to save your marriage, especially when you work together. This following system comes highly recommended, has helped thousands of people just like you, and has been proven many times over. Don't let one rocky part destroy your marriage
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Stop My Divorce - Here is a Miracle Method People Desperately Search For byT. Sam Williams
Divorce is one of the most painful situations in life, and in fact it makes someone's life so miserable that many people who get divorced often fall victim of depression & frustration. Divorced people are reported to have been shown higher rate of emotional disturbance and go through several painful mental agony. Many Researches reveal that more than 60% of the divorced people die due to heart disease or high blood pressure. Divorce requires certain adjustment in life to cope up with it.
So it's always better to save your marriage and help yourself to stop your divorce. I have seen many people seek answer to question on "how I will stop my divorce". The relationship could be saved if you follow proper guidelines and think from your heart rather than from your mind.
Here you will discover few reasons behind divorce and what you need to do to prevent it.
The number one reason behind any divorce is lack of communication between both partners. Misunderstanding is another major factor that leads to divorce, so it's better to sit together and overcome the problem by discussing the same between both the partners
Other reason behind divorce is the changes in priorities. A couple gets together and marries with each other only because of love but slowly and slowly the love and passion started to disappear from their life as they started to get involve in some other jobs like office work, household work. Both partners take each other for granted and that is the time when relationship takes a "U" turn. You should always provide attention towards your partner no matter how well your relationship is. Whenever you feel free from other work, use that time to spend with your partner. Give them as much importance as you give to others.
Sometime Money is the reason behind relationship breakup. Don't let it put a wedge between you. Try to work your budget together. Your opposite partner may be good in finance handling so let him/her tackle the money part.
To sum up you have discovered few main reason behind the relationship breakup and I hope by now you have the answer to your question on "how to stop my divorce".
So it's always better to save your marriage and help yourself to stop your divorce. I have seen many people seek answer to question on "how I will stop my divorce". The relationship could be saved if you follow proper guidelines and think from your heart rather than from your mind.
Here you will discover few reasons behind divorce and what you need to do to prevent it.
The number one reason behind any divorce is lack of communication between both partners. Misunderstanding is another major factor that leads to divorce, so it's better to sit together and overcome the problem by discussing the same between both the partners
Other reason behind divorce is the changes in priorities. A couple gets together and marries with each other only because of love but slowly and slowly the love and passion started to disappear from their life as they started to get involve in some other jobs like office work, household work. Both partners take each other for granted and that is the time when relationship takes a "U" turn. You should always provide attention towards your partner no matter how well your relationship is. Whenever you feel free from other work, use that time to spend with your partner. Give them as much importance as you give to others.
Sometime Money is the reason behind relationship breakup. Don't let it put a wedge between you. Try to work your budget together. Your opposite partner may be good in finance handling so let him/her tackle the money part.
To sum up you have discovered few main reason behind the relationship breakup and I hope by now you have the answer to your question on "how to stop my divorce".
Stopping a Husband From Filing For Divorce - Can You? by Leslie Cane
I often get emails asking for my advice on how to stop a husband from either filing for or from going through with a divorce. I understand the urgency of these requests very well. I was in the situation myself a few years ago and I know that these wives think that if a divorce is begun or actually takes place, then the marriage is over for good. There's no more cards to deal or games to play. It's over for good and there's not going to be anything that you can do about it. So, the thinking goes, it's better to do everything in your power to reverse this right now, before the divorce actually happens.
This thinking is very familiar to me, but I also know from experience that it will make things that are ill advised seem completely logical at the time. This is a very dangerous place to be because you are very vulnerable to doing or saying things that you will later come to regret. This is make or break time, no doubt, but don't allow this to convince you that you need to participate in desperate behaviors that are only going to make things worse. I'll discuss this more in the following article.
Legal Maneuvering Is Often Not The Answer. Only Your Attorney Will Win: Many women will tell me things like: "well I'm just going to have my attorney contest the divorce," or "I'm just going to tell my attorney to stall;" or "I will refuse to accept the divorce papers." The thinking behind this is often that you can blame all of this on your attorney and you've bought yourself the time that you need.
But, the problem here is that this is only going to annoy your husband. He's going to see you as an adversary and he's only going to want to make this process end that much sooner. He's going to be annoyed with you and do everything in his power to avoid you. This isn't what you want.
And, your attorney can attempt to stall but this can only go on for so long (and it will be quite expensive even though you still reach the same end.) And as the end is building up, you're only getting further and further away from your husband, not closer. Avoiding being served will do you no good. I'm not an attorney but it is my understanding that your husband can ask for summary judgment most of the time.
Often trying to avoid, delay, or hide from this situation is not going to make it go away. It's best to just take a good hard luck it the reality of the situation, accept it as it is right now, and then calmly decide the best way for you to change it while making sure that you appear (and that he perceives you) in the most favorable way possible.
Understanding That If You Can Change The Perception, You Can Change The Reality: Often people go about stopping the divorce backward. They want to skip to the part where they change the reality of the situation and they don't really think it through or do anything to change the situation. They think that just because they want their husband to change his mind, that they must then force this upon him through whatever means necessary. In the end, he's only going to resent you for this. Even if he does consider "giving in," he will not have made this decision on his own, so this decision is less likely to be lasting.
Your best bet is to actually change his perception of you and of the marriage. You must allow him to see that you are not who he thought and that the marriage is not what he thought. In short, you must change his perception before you even begin to worry about the reality of the situation. But, how can you do this when he's made up his mind and has threatened to begin the divorce process? You make every single encounter and interaction count, but you don't let your desperation or your plan show. You remember who and what he wants. You must do everything in your power to paint yourself as a woman of dignity and respect who values his happiness enough to be calm and rational. You show him that the woman he first fell in love with is still right in front of him. You change his perception from one of annoyance and avoidance to one of curiosity and light heartedness.
Stepping Back to Move Closer: As you probably suspect, this takes some doing and some balancing. You can't come on too strong, but you must make yourself visible. You must show him that you want him to be happy, but you don't just want to throw in the towel and give up. There is a fine line between all of these things. At the end of the day, you must strike a balance and you must look to him for how to best do this. There will likely be some days where he is more receptive than others. On the days where he is not, you should go about doing the things that make you happy, make you appear strong, and make you appear attractive. Often, this silence and this distance will create a little curiosity on his part and so he will be the one who starts to move closer. Again, make sure that you are striking that balance. Don't rush or push. Watch for and respond to his cues and create the distance when you need to.
Wives are understandably reluctant to experience the distance that I'm talking about, but it's often this space that will allow him the perspective that he needs. And when he pauses for this perceptive, make sure that you've painted yourself in the best light. And, hopefully I've shown you that fighting him every step of the way here is not the way to do that.
This thinking is very familiar to me, but I also know from experience that it will make things that are ill advised seem completely logical at the time. This is a very dangerous place to be because you are very vulnerable to doing or saying things that you will later come to regret. This is make or break time, no doubt, but don't allow this to convince you that you need to participate in desperate behaviors that are only going to make things worse. I'll discuss this more in the following article.
Legal Maneuvering Is Often Not The Answer. Only Your Attorney Will Win: Many women will tell me things like: "well I'm just going to have my attorney contest the divorce," or "I'm just going to tell my attorney to stall;" or "I will refuse to accept the divorce papers." The thinking behind this is often that you can blame all of this on your attorney and you've bought yourself the time that you need.
But, the problem here is that this is only going to annoy your husband. He's going to see you as an adversary and he's only going to want to make this process end that much sooner. He's going to be annoyed with you and do everything in his power to avoid you. This isn't what you want.
And, your attorney can attempt to stall but this can only go on for so long (and it will be quite expensive even though you still reach the same end.) And as the end is building up, you're only getting further and further away from your husband, not closer. Avoiding being served will do you no good. I'm not an attorney but it is my understanding that your husband can ask for summary judgment most of the time.
Often trying to avoid, delay, or hide from this situation is not going to make it go away. It's best to just take a good hard luck it the reality of the situation, accept it as it is right now, and then calmly decide the best way for you to change it while making sure that you appear (and that he perceives you) in the most favorable way possible.
Understanding That If You Can Change The Perception, You Can Change The Reality: Often people go about stopping the divorce backward. They want to skip to the part where they change the reality of the situation and they don't really think it through or do anything to change the situation. They think that just because they want their husband to change his mind, that they must then force this upon him through whatever means necessary. In the end, he's only going to resent you for this. Even if he does consider "giving in," he will not have made this decision on his own, so this decision is less likely to be lasting.
Your best bet is to actually change his perception of you and of the marriage. You must allow him to see that you are not who he thought and that the marriage is not what he thought. In short, you must change his perception before you even begin to worry about the reality of the situation. But, how can you do this when he's made up his mind and has threatened to begin the divorce process? You make every single encounter and interaction count, but you don't let your desperation or your plan show. You remember who and what he wants. You must do everything in your power to paint yourself as a woman of dignity and respect who values his happiness enough to be calm and rational. You show him that the woman he first fell in love with is still right in front of him. You change his perception from one of annoyance and avoidance to one of curiosity and light heartedness.
Stepping Back to Move Closer: As you probably suspect, this takes some doing and some balancing. You can't come on too strong, but you must make yourself visible. You must show him that you want him to be happy, but you don't just want to throw in the towel and give up. There is a fine line between all of these things. At the end of the day, you must strike a balance and you must look to him for how to best do this. There will likely be some days where he is more receptive than others. On the days where he is not, you should go about doing the things that make you happy, make you appear strong, and make you appear attractive. Often, this silence and this distance will create a little curiosity on his part and so he will be the one who starts to move closer. Again, make sure that you are striking that balance. Don't rush or push. Watch for and respond to his cues and create the distance when you need to.
Wives are understandably reluctant to experience the distance that I'm talking about, but it's often this space that will allow him the perspective that he needs. And when he pauses for this perceptive, make sure that you've painted yourself in the best light. And, hopefully I've shown you that fighting him every step of the way here is not the way to do that.
Sunday, July 12, 2009
Get Your Ex Back - Do it Now in 3 Easy Steps by H.L Archer
One thing that you should remember about getting your ex back is this. You still have ties to them. No one else has the intimate knowledge of your ex like you do. You know what they like and what they don't like. You know what turns them on and what turns them off.
You must stop and realize how powerful this knowledge is going to be in the quest to get them back. You know them inside and out. All the little secrets. This puts you at a great advantage.
On the other hand, your ex partner knows you and all of your good points and all of your bad points. This could put you at a disadvantage unless you use all of this intimate knowledge of each other in the right way. Here's what you should do:
1. Make contact. If the breakup has been awhile, start now. If the breakup has just happened, don't be too hasty, allow for a cooling off period. When the time is right, call them or arrange through a friend to just happen to run into them.
2. Be cheerful and act as nothing had happened between you. Make cheerful small talk and then let it stay that way for a few days.
3. Contact them again. Start with small talk again and then bring into the conversation about having been to a favorite restaurant of your ex partner. Tell them that you thought of them and wondered if they would like to go there. If they accept, you are half way home.
Here's where you put all of this inside knowledge of them to work. You know what you did when the two of you were first dating. Do the same things again. It worked then and it will work now.
Play to the things they like and steer clear of the things that they don't like. Be at your best. Remember you are dating again and you want only your best side to show. Do these things and you will come out a winner and get your ex back
You must stop and realize how powerful this knowledge is going to be in the quest to get them back. You know them inside and out. All the little secrets. This puts you at a great advantage.
On the other hand, your ex partner knows you and all of your good points and all of your bad points. This could put you at a disadvantage unless you use all of this intimate knowledge of each other in the right way. Here's what you should do:
1. Make contact. If the breakup has been awhile, start now. If the breakup has just happened, don't be too hasty, allow for a cooling off period. When the time is right, call them or arrange through a friend to just happen to run into them.
2. Be cheerful and act as nothing had happened between you. Make cheerful small talk and then let it stay that way for a few days.
3. Contact them again. Start with small talk again and then bring into the conversation about having been to a favorite restaurant of your ex partner. Tell them that you thought of them and wondered if they would like to go there. If they accept, you are half way home.
Here's where you put all of this inside knowledge of them to work. You know what you did when the two of you were first dating. Do the same things again. It worked then and it will work now.
Play to the things they like and steer clear of the things that they don't like. Be at your best. Remember you are dating again and you want only your best side to show. Do these things and you will come out a winner and get your ex back
How to Get Your Ex Back If They Dumped You - Stop Chasing Your Ex & Do This Right Away by Joson Leading
It is a terrible feeling to get dumped. If you are one of those unlucky ones, do not let it shatter your confidence. Remember that it is an ideal opportunity to do a lot of new things in your life. This will also go a long way in getting your ex to get back again as you will be a far more interesting person!
Get on with life.
Keep going on as you always have. Though it is tough as your heart is surely breaking, it must be done. Remember at no point should your ex feel that he/she has affected your life in such a terrible manner that you cannot even function! This will be the victory he/she is looking for, and will also give your ex a sense of self importance.
Act as though you are pleased
Act as though the break up was the best thing that happened to you! When you continue with your routine and find time for other activities too, you will find that your ex will be wondering how easy it has been for you to move on. This will make him/her burn with envy.
Work on how you look
You need to realize that you should look hotter than you ever did! When your ex sees you he/she needs to do a double take! You must remember to be courteous and polite always. This will make him/her wonder just why he/she let you go! Being haughty or arrogant will make your ex turn away. Be nice at all times and he/she will realize the mistake he/she has made.
A little jealously
Attend parties with all the new friends you have made. Make sure you go where you know your ex will be present. He will burn with rage when he/she sees the new improved you surrounded by a throng of potential suitor's .Spare a glance and a smile for him/her, just to let him/her know you still care.
Get on with life.
Keep going on as you always have. Though it is tough as your heart is surely breaking, it must be done. Remember at no point should your ex feel that he/she has affected your life in such a terrible manner that you cannot even function! This will be the victory he/she is looking for, and will also give your ex a sense of self importance.
Act as though you are pleased
Act as though the break up was the best thing that happened to you! When you continue with your routine and find time for other activities too, you will find that your ex will be wondering how easy it has been for you to move on. This will make him/her burn with envy.
Work on how you look
You need to realize that you should look hotter than you ever did! When your ex sees you he/she needs to do a double take! You must remember to be courteous and polite always. This will make him/her wonder just why he/she let you go! Being haughty or arrogant will make your ex turn away. Be nice at all times and he/she will realize the mistake he/she has made.
A little jealously
Attend parties with all the new friends you have made. Make sure you go where you know your ex will be present. He will burn with rage when he/she sees the new improved you surrounded by a throng of potential suitor's .Spare a glance and a smile for him/her, just to let him/her know you still care.
How to Fix a Broken Relationship - Learn the Best Way to Fix Your Relationship Easily by Tony Eboulondzi
First of all make a conscious effort to note the good things you like about your partner or things he/she doesn't like. Those who need sexual exclusivity should partner with the same unless they're flexible enough to deal with it in other ways.
Those who do not need sexual exclusivity find their way to honor the marriage in other fashions. If you have been neglecting your relationship too much, then spending quality time over a weekend or longer with your partner can repair much of the damage. This is the time to discuss issues that may have been troubling you both in order to find the right solutions.
This is so that it will be able to suit you both without causing too much upheaval in your careers, and it may also be necessary for your partner to arrange vacation time as well. Planning your save a relationship get away together can be exciting in itself and this alone will be the beginnings of bringing you back closer together. I can show you exactly how to win back your partner and re-ignite the passion in your once happy relationship.
Once you and your partner have smoothed things out, be sure to take things slowly. Rushing back into things can make your relationship an easy target to the same problems that caused your rockiness in the first place.
It is what causes many of the other emotional problems that come up when you find out your partner has cheated on you. You can renew your bonds by taking time out at a save a relationship getaway that you can either plan together or spring as a surprise for your partner.
Make a conscious effort to note the good things you like about your partner or things they do. It is wonderful when you can be best friends with your partner, but sometimes the friendship is doing so well that it receives all the focus, while in the meantime the romance (being in love) has been neglected.
If you are not careful, in time, you will start looking at each other as close buddies and no longer be that passionate couple you started as. This is the ideal kind of gift to offer your partner, because it absolutely affirms your intimacy.
Have you ever tried to communicate with your partner or solve a problem in the middle of a relationship crisis? She wanted deep soulful connection and true partnership. He ran from the connection and she was angry with that most of the time. This comes from the fact that your partner respects you and is willing to help you in your problems. But when you start avoiding your partner, remain silent to his / her problems; it can quickly deteriorate your relationship.
Sometimes one partner's affairs may have more to do with their own character flaws than with issues in the relationship. Some people are cheaters, plain and simple. Yes, you can learn how to share with your partner that what they do isn't acceptable to you. But wouldn't you prefer a relationship full of love and passion.
During strife in a relationship an important factor is to allow your partner to have space to sort out their own feelings as well. This may also mean letting him/her visit family or friends or get away for a while on their own so that they can also sort out their own feelings.
Those who do not need sexual exclusivity find their way to honor the marriage in other fashions. If you have been neglecting your relationship too much, then spending quality time over a weekend or longer with your partner can repair much of the damage. This is the time to discuss issues that may have been troubling you both in order to find the right solutions.
This is so that it will be able to suit you both without causing too much upheaval in your careers, and it may also be necessary for your partner to arrange vacation time as well. Planning your save a relationship get away together can be exciting in itself and this alone will be the beginnings of bringing you back closer together. I can show you exactly how to win back your partner and re-ignite the passion in your once happy relationship.
Once you and your partner have smoothed things out, be sure to take things slowly. Rushing back into things can make your relationship an easy target to the same problems that caused your rockiness in the first place.
It is what causes many of the other emotional problems that come up when you find out your partner has cheated on you. You can renew your bonds by taking time out at a save a relationship getaway that you can either plan together or spring as a surprise for your partner.
Make a conscious effort to note the good things you like about your partner or things they do. It is wonderful when you can be best friends with your partner, but sometimes the friendship is doing so well that it receives all the focus, while in the meantime the romance (being in love) has been neglected.
If you are not careful, in time, you will start looking at each other as close buddies and no longer be that passionate couple you started as. This is the ideal kind of gift to offer your partner, because it absolutely affirms your intimacy.
Have you ever tried to communicate with your partner or solve a problem in the middle of a relationship crisis? She wanted deep soulful connection and true partnership. He ran from the connection and she was angry with that most of the time. This comes from the fact that your partner respects you and is willing to help you in your problems. But when you start avoiding your partner, remain silent to his / her problems; it can quickly deteriorate your relationship.
Sometimes one partner's affairs may have more to do with their own character flaws than with issues in the relationship. Some people are cheaters, plain and simple. Yes, you can learn how to share with your partner that what they do isn't acceptable to you. But wouldn't you prefer a relationship full of love and passion.
During strife in a relationship an important factor is to allow your partner to have space to sort out their own feelings as well. This may also mean letting him/her visit family or friends or get away for a while on their own so that they can also sort out their own feelings.
Thursday, July 9, 2009
Want to Save Your Marriage? - Find Out How by kylar mettrnich
Is you marriage in trouble? Do you want to save your marriage? Then you are on the right track by clicking on this article and reading it. As they say, there is no such thing as a coincidence and the fact that you are reading this article right now may have some significance. First of all, you must congratulate yourself from wanting to save your marriage. That only means that you have taken the first important step in salvaging a relationship. Give yourself a pat on the back. Of course it is not right to stop right there. Take the other steps. If you don't know what they are then this article will be a big help for you.
Next Step: Find the Problem. Now that you have acknowledged that there is a problem in your relationship then the next logical step is to determine what the problem is. Every troubled marriage has a root cause and that is what you should find. One of the best places to look for clues are your differences, the differences that come up every time you and your spouse argue with each other. There must be an underlying theme to all your fights. Once you recall what it is, then you already know the main problem in your relationship. Then it is time to move on to the next step.
Next Step: Fix the Problem. OK, to fix the problem is easier said than done. Sometimes though, the solutions to our problems are right under your noses. The reason why many couples are not taking the necessary steps to solve their marital problems is because either they are too lazy or too scared to do so. Implementing solutions require effort and most human being avoid exerting effort. If only people would be able to fight off the emotional inertia that is stopping them from trying out the solutions to solve their problems then there would be significantly less divorce cases all over the world.
Final Step: The Follow Up. If you were successful in bringing life back to your marriage do not think for a moment that the work is done. In fact, you have only just began. You must stand vigilant never to allow small problem to become big issue. Failure to do this may result in another break up in the future. If you want to save your marriage, then you will be willing to work on it every single day.
If you want to save your marriage then remember these steps.
It is a fact that marital problems and divorces have become quite common in recent years. What people fail to take account are the number of couples that were able to fix their marriages and are now living happy lives together. If you are currently having problems with your own marriage, do not lose hope.
Next Step: Find the Problem. Now that you have acknowledged that there is a problem in your relationship then the next logical step is to determine what the problem is. Every troubled marriage has a root cause and that is what you should find. One of the best places to look for clues are your differences, the differences that come up every time you and your spouse argue with each other. There must be an underlying theme to all your fights. Once you recall what it is, then you already know the main problem in your relationship. Then it is time to move on to the next step.
Next Step: Fix the Problem. OK, to fix the problem is easier said than done. Sometimes though, the solutions to our problems are right under your noses. The reason why many couples are not taking the necessary steps to solve their marital problems is because either they are too lazy or too scared to do so. Implementing solutions require effort and most human being avoid exerting effort. If only people would be able to fight off the emotional inertia that is stopping them from trying out the solutions to solve their problems then there would be significantly less divorce cases all over the world.
Final Step: The Follow Up. If you were successful in bringing life back to your marriage do not think for a moment that the work is done. In fact, you have only just began. You must stand vigilant never to allow small problem to become big issue. Failure to do this may result in another break up in the future. If you want to save your marriage, then you will be willing to work on it every single day.
If you want to save your marriage then remember these steps.
It is a fact that marital problems and divorces have become quite common in recent years. What people fail to take account are the number of couples that were able to fix their marriages and are now living happy lives together. If you are currently having problems with your own marriage, do not lose hope.
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