Temperament And marriage- Phlegmatic Husband

The truth remains that if marriage must succeed, character differences must be put into consideration. We are at the last segment of ‘Temperament And Marriage’ of which phlegmatic husband is our focus.
I. THE STRENGTH OF A PHLEGMATIC  HUSBAND

1. He is the easiest person to get along with and is by nature the most likeable of all the temperaments.
2. He is calm, composed and never seems agitated no matter the circumstances around him.
3. He  has a retentive memory and is capable of being a fine imitator
   1. The phlegmatic tends to be a spectator in life and tries not to get very involved with the activities of others.
   2. He is consistent every time he is seen; he also does not lack friends because he enjoys them and has a natural dry sense of humour.
   3. Whenever roused to action however, his efficient qualities become apparent.
   4. He will not volunteer for leadership on his own but when it is forced on him, he proves to be a very capable leader.
   5. He is a natural peacemaker because he is kind and rarely gets angry. He prefers to be cheated for peace to reign.

 II.  THE WEAKNESSES OF A PHLEGMATIC HUSBAND

1. He lacks drive and ambition, therefore rarely initiates an activity. He usually gives excuses to do the expected.
   1. He is selfish. This makes him self-indulgent and unconcerned about his family’s needs for activity.
   2. No one can be more stubborn than a phlegmatic but he is so diplomatic about it that people do not realize it.                                                                                                                                                                                
   3. A phlegmatic person could be mistaken for a Christian even as an unbeliever. He is polite and diplomatic about the expression of the old sinful nature.
   4. He is prone to procrastination and also makes slow methodical decisions which can enrage his wife and others
   5. He is very fearful under the surface and this in some cases makes his wife rule him, especially if she is a choleric.
   6. He doesn’t discipline his children but Gives them every privilege to behave as they like.
   7. He is not sexually motivated, but flows with whatever is given to him.

As a phlegmatic husband and the head of your family try as much as you can to take up your spiritual and conjugal responsibilities ensuring that your wife and children are happy.

Unfaithfulness In Marriage

Unfaithfulness is the ability of husband and wife not being trusted or loyal to one another. When married people begin to live unfaithfully to each other, definitely their marriage is bound to collapse. Our lesson today will show you how to avoid unfaithfulness in your marriage.
I. Circumstances that lead To Unfaithfulness In Marriage. Before a partner will become unfaithful there are circumstances that lead to it. Let’s see some of them:
(A) Sickness (B) Childlessness
(C) Sudden Prosperity (D) Joblessness
(E) Death of husband/Wife (F) Long separation due to business trip or job
(G) Old age (H) fading away of beauty/unattractiveness (I) Impotence
(J) Lack of Communication
(K) Unhealthy work circumstances. e.g.  (i) Working for long hours together with an opposite sex in the same office. (ii) Trekking home together after work. (iii) Staying together in the same hotel for important work assignments.
II. How to overcome Unfaithfulness in Marriage
1. Have The Fear of God and be obedient to His words (Gen.39:7-12)
2. Live a prayerful life.  And pray together with your spouse. (Matt.26:41)
3. Discuss areas of temptations together (James 5:16) (If any one approached you for friendship as a wife discuss it with your husband. Likewise as a husband, if a woman is showing interest in you, let your wife know.
4. Let your partner know about favours received from opposite sex. In fact let your partner call and appreciate him/her
5. Avoid close relationship with opposite sex (calling frequently to discuss irrelevant issues, chatting or sending text messages.)

1. Allow your partner access to your phone (i.e. let her/him pick your call)
2. Don’t deny each other sex. For that can lead to marital unfaithfulness.(1Cor.7:2-5)
3. Talk positively about your partner in the presence of someone you suspect is interested in you.
4. Wear your wedding rings always.

 God will not be happy with you if your marriage fails. Please ensure that you and your partner make your marriage succeed. Great rewards are waiting for both of you in heaven for being faithful to each other.

Temperaments And Marriage - Choleric Wife

knowing the character of your spouse helps a lot. It brings understanding in the family.In this article you are going to learn how to understand your Choleric wife.

 

I. The Strengths of A Choleric Wife.

 

1. A Choleric wife is bossy, overly aggressive and domineering. She is often considered a threat by other men and resented and judged by other women who tend to want to cut her down to size.

 

2.She is very energetic and outgoing and always up to something new.

 

3.Courageous –she believes she can do whatever she sets her mind to do. No matter the obstacles, she will hold firmly to her belief that she can do it.

 

4.Determined -she views life as series of problems to solve or challenges to overcome. To her ,problems are means of motivation than discouragement.

 

5.Crusade – she notices wrongs and injustices of life and feels compelled to set things right. She is the one who crusades for change.

 

6.Open and honest - You don’t have to wonder what she is thinking or feeling because she will let you know right up front whether you want to know or not. Often she has an excellent insight that is ignored because someone doesn’t like the way it was presented.

 

7.Effective disciplinarian - She spells out exactly what she expects and carries herself with an air of confident authority that children respect. Her children are usually exceptionally well- behaved. If she is a christian, she will be used powerfully by God as a good leader.

 

8.She is a forceful woman with many goals in mind. She may help with the finances of the home.

 

II. Weakness of A Choleric Wife.

 

1. She gets angry quickly - she can be mean to her husband, children and even total strangers. She may also use her mean streak to control her husband especially if she married a phlegmatic man, which is often the case.

 

2.She will often control her family by fear and intimidation. She can be harsh and may

hurt  people’s feelings with tough language and hash unloving attitude.

 

3. Self-centered -She’s interested in just herself. She doesn’t have human sympathy.

 

4.Uses people -doesn’t take time to make friends. She is not interested in two-way give and

take relationship required to maintain a long-term friendship. She uses people to accomplish

her dreams.

5.Workaholic -she works beyond working hours. She has no time for rest. Every moment to her is for work. She resents lazy people.

 

Let God help you understand yourself, and to help you control your temperaments so that you will not destroy your marriage.

Temperament And marriage-Melancholic Husband

As a wife, if you fail to understand the temperament of your husband you will find it difficult to live with him peacefully. Our study today will focus on the Melancholic husband
I. THE STRENGTH OF A MELANCHOLIC HUSBAND

1. Good housekeeper. She doesn’t wait until she gets a visitor before she cleans her home
   1. She is well organized. Her organizational skill extends beyond her home. It extends to her office, business or church. She carries a daily planner and keeps records of things.
   2. Detail oriented. She usually reads instruction manuals before doing anything. That is why she hardly makes mistake in her application.
   3. She likes to do things the right way and places great emphasis on what worked in the past
      1. Frugal. She is always a wise spender. It doesn’t matter how much money she has, she wants to    spend it wisely
      2. Careful Decision-maker. She is very cautious when making decisions and may be considered slow by others
      3. She is very intelligent, loyal and dedicated in any assignment given to her because she hates criticisms
      4. H.    She does not have many friends. But the few ones she has can count on her for being there for them all the time

1. II.  THE WEAKNESSES OF A MELANCHOLIC HUSBAND
   1. Unpopular. The melancholic is very quiet, thoughtful and unsocial. In reality she is timid and shy
   2. She is cautious in making friends because she has been hurt by disappointing friendship in the past and wants to guard her heart
   3. Rigid. She demands strict adherence to her many rules and principles. For her there is usually one way of doing things right – her ways
   4. She is prone to self pity and depression. She can descend into depression and lack of interest in life due to a slight rejection
   5. She finds it difficult to accept her husband as he is. She demands major changes to his life and activities. She finds it difficult to allow God change him in His time.
   6. Fault finder. She finds fault almost in everything her husband or people do because of her perfectionism
   7. She doesn’t take action easily because of her logical personality. This character makes her keep procrastinating. Her fears is that she might not do the job very well

   As a melancholic wife, you need the spirit of God to help you in the area of depression, perfectionism, fault finding etc. If these areas are taken care of, you will be an ideal wife and a great instrument in the hand of God

Temperament And marriage- Melancholic Wife

As a husband, if you want to enjoy your wife, please study the temperament of your wife.You  have been asking what and how should could be done.Keep on reading
I. THE STRENGTH OF A MELANCHOLIC WIFE

1. Good housekeeper. She doesn’t wait until she gets a visitor before she cleans her home
   1. She is well organized. Her organizational skill extends beyond her home. It extends to her office, business or church. She carries a daily planner and keeps records of things.
   2. Detail oriented. She usually reads instruction manuals before doing anything. That is why she hardly makes mistake in her application.
   3. She likes to do things the right way and places great emphasis on what worked in the past
      1. Frugal. She is always a wise spender. It doesn’t matter how much money she has, she wants to    spend it wisely
      2. Careful Decision-maker. She is very cautious when making decisions and may be considered slow by others
      3. She is very intelligent, loyal and dedicated in any assignment given to her because she hates criticisms
      4. H.    She does not have many friends. But the few ones she has can count on her for being there for them all the time

1. II.  THE WEAKNESSES OF A MELANCHOLIC WIFE
   1. Unpopular. The melancholic is very quiet, thoughtful and unsocial. In reality she is timid and shy
   2. She is cautious in making friends because she has been hurt by disappointing friendship in the past and wants to guard her heart
   3. Rigid. She demands strict adherence to her many rules and principles. For her there is usually one way of doing things right – her ways
   4. She is prone to self pity and depression. She can descend into depression and lack of interest in life due to a slight rejection
   5. She finds it difficult to accept her husband as he is. She demands major changes to his life and activities. She finds it difficult to allow God change him in His time.
   6. Fault finder. She finds fault almost in everything her husband or people do because of her perfectionism
   7. She doesn’t take action easily because of her logical personality. This character makes her keep procrastinating. Her fears is that she might not do the job very well

   As a melancholic wife, you need the spirit of God to help you in the area of depression, perfectionism, fault finding etc. If these areas are taken care of, you will be an ideal wife and a great instrument in the hand of God

Temperament And Marriage-Phlegmatic Wife

I have always said it that for any marriage to survive, there must be a time to study characters of each other. Failure to do this will result in failure in all things.We are are going to critically look at the Phlegmatic Wife.
I. THE STRENGTH OF A PHLEGMATIC  WIFE
 1. She doesn’t draw attention to herself but draws hurting people to herself. This is because hurting people sense that they have found a safe listening ear. Even total strangers tend to open up to the phlegmatic woman telling her about their problems and being comforted by her.
2.  She is very good at visitation; always calling people close to her just to see if everything is okay.
3. Loyal. She is a very loyal friend; once she’s yours, she’s yours.  She steadfastly maintains deep, abiding relationships with her childhood friends or husband’s relations.
4. Peacemaker-rarely gets bogged down with inter-personal conflict. She thrives on harmony and will do whatever she can to maintain it.
5. She is quick to adjust to people around her and never insists on having things her way. It is her sincere desire to please others.
6. Faithful- has an exceptional ability to absorb emotional pain and still maintains her commitment to another person. She would stick to her marriage long after most women would have given up.
 II.  THE WEAKNESSES OF A PHLEGMATIC WIFE
 1. Unenthusiastic- she doesn’t get overexcited over achievements and exploits. Her goal is to conserve her limited supply of energy. This lack of enthusiasm can cause significant conflict in her relationship with family and friends who may interpret it as a lack of love, admiration, concern, interest and can usually result in emotional damage to her loved ones.
2. Fearful- she is fearful and plagued by ‘‘what ifs’’. She is often paralyzed by fears and insecurities and this can mar her relationships.
3. Sluggish-she is not the hard working type. She can look at the barest minimum she can do and still get on. Her house can be disorganized but perhaps not to the extent of that of sanguine. Phlegmatic can be addicted to TV and her sluggish lifestyle can lead to excessive weight gain.
4. Compromising-she is a follower by nature and may compromise her standards to suit whoever she spends the most time with. Because of this, she can fall among bad company.
5. She is selfish: she cares only for herself. This causes her husband and people resent her.
6. Stubborn-she does not complain or argue but may quietly and unwaveringly stick to her rights.
7. She is unconcerned about her dressing. She dresses anyhow to high class occasions; this makes her husband finds it hard to take her out.
When you discover that you are a phlegmatic wife, try to allow the Holy Spirit remove all your weaknesses so that your husband will enjoy you as a wife.

How To last Long In Bed By Delaying Ejaculation

Learn to delay ejaculation and last longer in bed as a married man by trying these simple tips to delay and prolong ejaculation. 

This will enable you and your partner to enjoy a healthy sex life.
Kegel Exercises – Kegel exercises can help you prolong ejaculation. Kegels are those muscles that you use for controlling urination. So, flex these muscles about 30 times a day to delay ejaculation.

1. Squeeze Technique – Prolong ejaculation and delay it by holding the tip of the head of the man-hood. Squeezing the tip of the man-hood can help control premature ejaculation.

2. Testes – The scrotum rises as a man reaches climax and is on the verge of ejaculation. So, delay ejaculation by pulling the scrotum away from the body.

3. Change Focus – Rather than concentrating on ejaculation, concentrate on your partner’s pleasure.

4. Combination of thrusts – Delay ejaculation or male climax by combining shallow thrusts with deep thrusts. This technique helps prolong ejaculation and will make you last longer in bed.

5. Massage the prostate gland – When you practice delaying ejaculation, the prostate gland turns sore. Hence it is important to massage the gland to prevent any kind of pain.

6. Perineum pressure – Delay ejaculation by applying pressure to the perineum, which is the spot between the anus and scrotum. The prostate gland expands and contracts while reaching climax or ejaculation. So, by applying pressure on this spot, one can prolong ejaculation.

7. Pelvic muscles – Squeeze the pubococcygeous muscle to stop ejaculating. Contract these muscles, which are used for controlling urine; doing so regularly helps you delay ejaculation.

8. Blueberries – This berry is known to delay ejaculation, as it relaxes the nerves in the man-hood.

 9. Woman-on-top – This sex position reduces your chances of premature ejaculation, thereby helping you last longer in bed. Switch to the woman-on-top sex position to delay ejaculation.

10. Start and stop – When you have the urge to release, stop, pull out and then thrust again. Also, the start and stop method helps a couple to last longer in bed and enjoy the full sexual experience.

11. self service – self service can help you prolong sex, so delay ejaculation by self servicing at least an hour before intercourse.

12. Control your climax – Without any lubrication self service to the point of climax and stop. Do it a couple of times and then release; over a period of time you can control ejaculation.
Before engaging in intercourse, engage in foreplay – ask your partner to gently massage the man-hood along with lubrication. In time this method can help you prolong ejaculation.