Temperament And marriage- Phlegmatic Husband

The truth remains that if marriage must succeed, character differences must be put into consideration. We are at the last segment of ‘Temperament And Marriage’ of which phlegmatic husband is our focus.
I. THE STRENGTH OF A PHLEGMATIC  HUSBAND

1. He is the easiest person to get along with and is by nature the most likeable of all the temperaments.
2. He is calm, composed and never seems agitated no matter the circumstances around him.
3. He  has a retentive memory and is capable of being a fine imitator
   1. The phlegmatic tends to be a spectator in life and tries not to get very involved with the activities of others.
   2. He is consistent every time he is seen; he also does not lack friends because he enjoys them and has a natural dry sense of humour.
   3. Whenever roused to action however, his efficient qualities become apparent.
   4. He will not volunteer for leadership on his own but when it is forced on him, he proves to be a very capable leader.
   5. He is a natural peacemaker because he is kind and rarely gets angry. He prefers to be cheated for peace to reign.

 II.  THE WEAKNESSES OF A PHLEGMATIC HUSBAND

1. He lacks drive and ambition, therefore rarely initiates an activity. He usually gives excuses to do the expected.
   1. He is selfish. This makes him self-indulgent and unconcerned about his family’s needs for activity.
   2. No one can be more stubborn than a phlegmatic but he is so diplomatic about it that people do not realize it.                                                                                                                                                                                
   3. A phlegmatic person could be mistaken for a Christian even as an unbeliever. He is polite and diplomatic about the expression of the old sinful nature.
   4. He is prone to procrastination and also makes slow methodical decisions which can enrage his wife and others
   5. He is very fearful under the surface and this in some cases makes his wife rule him, especially if she is a choleric.
   6. He doesn’t discipline his children but Gives them every privilege to behave as they like.
   7. He is not sexually motivated, but flows with whatever is given to him.

As a phlegmatic husband and the head of your family try as much as you can to take up your spiritual and conjugal responsibilities ensuring that your wife and children are happy.