Temperament And Marriage-Phlegmatic Wife

I have always said it that for any marriage to survive, there must be a time to study characters of each other. Failure to do this will result in failure in all things.We are are going to critically look at the Phlegmatic Wife.
I. THE STRENGTH OF A PHLEGMATIC  WIFE
 1. She doesn’t draw attention to herself but draws hurting people to herself. This is because hurting people sense that they have found a safe listening ear. Even total strangers tend to open up to the phlegmatic woman telling her about their problems and being comforted by her.
2.  She is very good at visitation; always calling people close to her just to see if everything is okay.
3. Loyal. She is a very loyal friend; once she’s yours, she’s yours.  She steadfastly maintains deep, abiding relationships with her childhood friends or husband’s relations.
4. Peacemaker-rarely gets bogged down with inter-personal conflict. She thrives on harmony and will do whatever she can to maintain it.
5. She is quick to adjust to people around her and never insists on having things her way. It is her sincere desire to please others.
6. Faithful- has an exceptional ability to absorb emotional pain and still maintains her commitment to another person. She would stick to her marriage long after most women would have given up.
 II.  THE WEAKNESSES OF A PHLEGMATIC WIFE
 1. Unenthusiastic- she doesn’t get overexcited over achievements and exploits. Her goal is to conserve her limited supply of energy. This lack of enthusiasm can cause significant conflict in her relationship with family and friends who may interpret it as a lack of love, admiration, concern, interest and can usually result in emotional damage to her loved ones.
2. Fearful- she is fearful and plagued by ‘‘what ifs’’. She is often paralyzed by fears and insecurities and this can mar her relationships.
3. Sluggish-she is not the hard working type. She can look at the barest minimum she can do and still get on. Her house can be disorganized but perhaps not to the extent of that of sanguine. Phlegmatic can be addicted to TV and her sluggish lifestyle can lead to excessive weight gain.
4. Compromising-she is a follower by nature and may compromise her standards to suit whoever she spends the most time with. Because of this, she can fall among bad company.
5. She is selfish: she cares only for herself. This causes her husband and people resent her.
6. Stubborn-she does not complain or argue but may quietly and unwaveringly stick to her rights.
7. She is unconcerned about her dressing. She dresses anyhow to high class occasions; this makes her husband finds it hard to take her out.
When you discover that you are a phlegmatic wife, try to allow the Holy Spirit remove all your weaknesses so that your husband will enjoy you as a wife.