How To Make Your Husband Happy

One of the best ways to make your husband happy is to laugh a lot. There is nothing worse for a husband than to be greeted by a miserable face when he comes home from work.
Before you can be happy for your husband though, you have to feel happy inside yourself. So it's important to understand and know yourself in order to create a happy and contented home for you and your husband.
In order for you to be happy you have to enjoy the things you're doing in your life. Work and children can take over but it's essential you create 'you' time and develop your creative side. By making time to keep your hobbies alive you'll be happier inside and it will show.
Be affectionate. There is nothing like a cuddle or a kiss to eliminate the day's woes from your husband's mind. If he knows he's coming home to a loving wife and children it will cement the marriage.Keep yourself clean and attractive. Don't let family or tiredness take away your dignity and your self esteem. Try to keep yourself looking at the very best you can so that your husband will want to be with you and can't wait to come home.
After years of marriage this is not always easy, but it really can be achieved.
Always keep the home clean and make it a haven from the rest of the world. Keep the decor light and airy and have flowers displayed around the rooms to make them welcoming. If you can't always afford fresh flowers, then use artificial ones and perhaps decorate them with greenery from the garden.
Take time and trouble over preparing the evening meal. A pizza is all right occasionally, but it's hardly a romantic meal. You can plan in advance and perhaps prepare several dishes at the weekend in order to save you the time when you get home from work or from picking up the children. Think the meals through and try to choose things you know he particularly likes.
Sitting eating together is important in any marriage, as you can talk over the day's events and laugh or cry together. Talking things over and laughing at things together can make even the bad events of the day more tolerable. Laughter is very definitely the best medicine.
Sometimes it's good to give your husband space and quiet. He doesn't necessarily want to hear lots of girlie gossip, save that for your friends. Silence can be a sign of affection in that you are aware of his need for solitude and quiet. Respect that and leave him to relax.
When you go out together don't make him feel embarrassed because you are talking too loud and don't relate private things to others.
Compliment him and let him know you appreciate how hard he works for you and your family. Don't nag him about things he hasn't done, rather mention in a subtle way and let him end up thinking he's remembered it himself. A simple thing no doubt, but a good way to make your husband happy.

How to Make Your Wife Love You

How to make your wife love you again. Have you been thinking of ways to do this? Keep reading to discover different ways of bringing the love back into your marriage.
Why do you feel that she doesn't love you anymore? Does she not meet you at the door when you come home from work? Does it seem like you try to talk to her, but her mind is always somewhere else?
Whatever the reason you feel this way, it is time to stop. It's time to get your wife back. It's time to get your marriage back to being a good, happy marriage again.
Above all else, you can't show any hurt, anger, or desperation. All that will do is make matters worse. If you show anger, she is likely to back away further from you. That's the last thing you want right now, right?
So how do you stop that from happening?
Try to see things through her eyes. Look at your marriage a different way. Picture yourself as her, and try to see how she feels. Maybe you'll see something that you've never noticed before. When you want to know how to make your wife love you again, you must try to look at your marriage from a different angle.
Have you tried to talk to her about these feelings? It may be that she finds herself too wrapped up in life - career, kids, household bills, stress, etc., that she doesn't even realize that she is neglecting you. She may think that you're her husband - you'll be there no matter what. Let her know how you feel.
Is you marriage lacking the 'spice' it used to have? Is it getting dull, or boring? Do what you can to bring the spark back. Make a special date with your wife. Go out and have some fun. Relax together. Do something you both enjoy doing, and spend some quality time with each other.
What this will do is bring the feelings you both have for each other back to the surface, where they belong. Over time, emotions tend to get buried under life's little problems, and we don't see anything is wrong until it's too late.
Does your wife feel unappreciated? Show her that you appreciate her. You know that she does a lot around the house, and take steps to help her when you can. When she's making dinner or doing laundry, offer to help her. Even little things make a huge difference! There are many ways to learn how to make your wife love you again, these are just a few.

Key For a Successful Marriage

Last week we celebrated the wedding of two young adults in our church. I had the privilege of giving the wedding sermon. And in my sermon I shared with them this time tested key for a successful marriage. Now this might surprise you, but this time tested key for a successful marriage is found in the Bible in Proverbs 18:22.
Carefully read with me the words found in Proverbs 18:22. "He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord." I think it would also be appropriate to turn the proverb around in this way. "She who finds a husband finds a good thing..."
At this point you are probably raising this question to yourself. "What does this proverb have to do with a successful marriage?" This Proverb teaches us two important concepts about a successful marriage. Let me share them with you.
First, this Proverb teaches us about the sovereignty of God in marriage.
A couple with a successful marriage understands this important truth. God is the one who brought them together. Please understand you did not meet your spouse by accident. God arranged all the details of life so that you might meet each other and marry each other.
If God brought you together then your spouse is a special gift from the Lord. And if your spouse is a gift from the Lord then we need to treat them like a special gift. Think what would happen in America if people began to treat their spouse as a special gift from the Lord.
Years ago I ministered at a church in North Dakota. In the congregation there where several couples who celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary. Each of them had a happy marriage because they understood this important truth. God was the one who brought them together. They therefore treated each other as a special gift from the Lord. And this made a difference in their marriage.
Second, this Proverb teaches us about the goodness of God in marriage.
Please understand that God is the one who created the idea of marriage. And whatever God creates is good. Your marriage is a good thing. And if someone puts down marriage they are putting down what God has called good. It's that simple.
At this point you may be frustrated with your spouse. You may at this point wish you were never married to them. But please remember this important truth. If you are married then you have found a good thing. For whatever God creates is always good.
When couples come to me for help they often say this to me. "We just don't like one another any more." I then ask them to list two or three things that originally attracted them to each other. As they list what originally attracted them to each other, smiles usually fill their faces. Once again they realized that they have found a good thing in one another.
Conclusion
The next time you are frustrated with your marriage please remember these two important truths. First, remember the sovereignty of God in marriage. God is the one who brought you together. Therefore treat one another as a special gift from the Lord. Second, remember the goodness of God in marriage. You have found a good thing in one each other.
Dan Korzep is the teaching pastor at Christian Bible Church in Methuen, Ma. He has been in the ministry for thrity years. He has a BS in Sociology from Shepherd University, and a Master's of Divinity from the Reformed Episcopal Seiminary. He is married and has five children.
For years Dan has been helping couples improve or save their marriages. Dan is the author of the forth coming book "How to Rescue Your Marriage.

Eight Danger Signs That Your Marriage Is In Trouble

1. You argue about the same things over and over again and never seem to clear the air. One of the causes of this menace is when both of you try to claim innocence; no one wants to accept the mistake done. This type of attitude breeds pride.
2. You feel criticized and put down by your partner frequently and this leaves you feeling less than "good enough." According to renowned relationship experts, criticism is one of the main reasons why marriages collapse.
3. You have difficulty being vulnerable with your significant other and when you do your worst fears are actualized - you're left regretting that you revealed your feelings and desires.
4. One or both of you put your children or others first. If you put your children first, day in and day out, you will exhaust your marriage.No one is saying you should hate your children or desert them, but all we are saying is that you should adjust your marriage priority-your spouse first before your children.
5. You don't enjoy each other's friends or families so begin socializing away from one another. This may start out as an occasional weeknight out. But if not nipped in the bud, it can spill over into weekends - ideally when couples have an opportunity to spend more time together.
6. Unforgettable hurt. You have ghosts from past relationships that surface because they were not dealt with. You may overreact to fairly innocent things your partner says or does because it triggers a memory from a past relationship. Clean the slate of your memory of the past mistakes, hurtful attitude of your spouse.
7. Your needs for sexual intimacy are vastly different and/or you rarely have sex. Relationship expert John Thomas writes, "Whether it is him or you that has lost interest, a lack of regular intimacy in a marriage is a bad sign. Sex is the glue that binds, it is the way adults play and enjoy each other."
8. When you disagree you seldom resolve your differences. You fall into the trap of blaming each other and fail to compromise or apologize. As a result, you experience less warmth and closeness.

Resolve today to make your marriage work by avoiding these  danger signs

Temperament And marriage- Phlegmatic Husband

The truth remains that if marriage must succeed, character differences must be put into consideration. We are at the last segment of ‘Temperament And Marriage’ of which phlegmatic husband is our focus.
I. THE STRENGTH OF A PHLEGMATIC  HUSBAND

1. He is the easiest person to get along with and is by nature the most likeable of all the temperaments.
2. He is calm, composed and never seems agitated no matter the circumstances around him.
3. He  has a retentive memory and is capable of being a fine imitator
   1. The phlegmatic tends to be a spectator in life and tries not to get very involved with the activities of others.
   2. He is consistent every time he is seen; he also does not lack friends because he enjoys them and has a natural dry sense of humour.
   3. Whenever roused to action however, his efficient qualities become apparent.
   4. He will not volunteer for leadership on his own but when it is forced on him, he proves to be a very capable leader.
   5. He is a natural peacemaker because he is kind and rarely gets angry. He prefers to be cheated for peace to reign.

 II.  THE WEAKNESSES OF A PHLEGMATIC HUSBAND

1. He lacks drive and ambition, therefore rarely initiates an activity. He usually gives excuses to do the expected.
   1. He is selfish. This makes him self-indulgent and unconcerned about his family’s needs for activity.
   2. No one can be more stubborn than a phlegmatic but he is so diplomatic about it that people do not realize it.                                                                                                                                                                                
   3. A phlegmatic person could be mistaken for a Christian even as an unbeliever. He is polite and diplomatic about the expression of the old sinful nature.
   4. He is prone to procrastination and also makes slow methodical decisions which can enrage his wife and others
   5. He is very fearful under the surface and this in some cases makes his wife rule him, especially if she is a choleric.
   6. He doesn’t discipline his children but Gives them every privilege to behave as they like.
   7. He is not sexually motivated, but flows with whatever is given to him.

As a phlegmatic husband and the head of your family try as much as you can to take up your spiritual and conjugal responsibilities ensuring that your wife and children are happy.

Unfaithfulness In Marriage

Unfaithfulness is the ability of husband and wife not being trusted or loyal to one another. When married people begin to live unfaithfully to each other, definitely their marriage is bound to collapse. Our lesson today will show you how to avoid unfaithfulness in your marriage.
I. Circumstances that lead To Unfaithfulness In Marriage. Before a partner will become unfaithful there are circumstances that lead to it. Let’s see some of them:
(A) Sickness (B) Childlessness
(C) Sudden Prosperity (D) Joblessness
(E) Death of husband/Wife (F) Long separation due to business trip or job
(G) Old age (H) fading away of beauty/unattractiveness (I) Impotence
(J) Lack of Communication
(K) Unhealthy work circumstances. e.g.  (i) Working for long hours together with an opposite sex in the same office. (ii) Trekking home together after work. (iii) Staying together in the same hotel for important work assignments.
II. How to overcome Unfaithfulness in Marriage
1. Have The Fear of God and be obedient to His words (Gen.39:7-12)
2. Live a prayerful life.  And pray together with your spouse. (Matt.26:41)
3. Discuss areas of temptations together (James 5:16) (If any one approached you for friendship as a wife discuss it with your husband. Likewise as a husband, if a woman is showing interest in you, let your wife know.
4. Let your partner know about favours received from opposite sex. In fact let your partner call and appreciate him/her
5. Avoid close relationship with opposite sex (calling frequently to discuss irrelevant issues, chatting or sending text messages.)

1. Allow your partner access to your phone (i.e. let her/him pick your call)
2. Don’t deny each other sex. For that can lead to marital unfaithfulness.(1Cor.7:2-5)
3. Talk positively about your partner in the presence of someone you suspect is interested in you.
4. Wear your wedding rings always.

 God will not be happy with you if your marriage fails. Please ensure that you and your partner make your marriage succeed. Great rewards are waiting for both of you in heaven for being faithful to each other.

Temperaments And Marriage - Choleric Wife

knowing the character of your spouse helps a lot. It brings understanding in the family.In this article you are going to learn how to understand your Choleric wife.

 

I. The Strengths of A Choleric Wife.

 

1. A Choleric wife is bossy, overly aggressive and domineering. She is often considered a threat by other men and resented and judged by other women who tend to want to cut her down to size.

 

2.She is very energetic and outgoing and always up to something new.

 

3.Courageous –she believes she can do whatever she sets her mind to do. No matter the obstacles, she will hold firmly to her belief that she can do it.

 

4.Determined -she views life as series of problems to solve or challenges to overcome. To her ,problems are means of motivation than discouragement.

 

5.Crusade – she notices wrongs and injustices of life and feels compelled to set things right. She is the one who crusades for change.

 

6.Open and honest - You don’t have to wonder what she is thinking or feeling because she will let you know right up front whether you want to know or not. Often she has an excellent insight that is ignored because someone doesn’t like the way it was presented.

 

7.Effective disciplinarian - She spells out exactly what she expects and carries herself with an air of confident authority that children respect. Her children are usually exceptionally well- behaved. If she is a christian, she will be used powerfully by God as a good leader.

 

8.She is a forceful woman with many goals in mind. She may help with the finances of the home.

 

II. Weakness of A Choleric Wife.

 

1. She gets angry quickly - she can be mean to her husband, children and even total strangers. She may also use her mean streak to control her husband especially if she married a phlegmatic man, which is often the case.

 

2.She will often control her family by fear and intimidation. She can be harsh and may

hurt  people’s feelings with tough language and hash unloving attitude.

 

3. Self-centered -She’s interested in just herself. She doesn’t have human sympathy.

 

4.Uses people -doesn’t take time to make friends. She is not interested in two-way give and

take relationship required to maintain a long-term friendship. She uses people to accomplish

her dreams.

5.Workaholic -she works beyond working hours. She has no time for rest. Every moment to her is for work. She resents lazy people.

 

Let God help you understand yourself, and to help you control your temperaments so that you will not destroy your marriage.